Sara Baartman who they dubbed Venus Hottennot exploited in "freak" show that white men sponsored for white men to leer at her divine form. Truth is black woman's body is archetype that all other women's aspire to. Who cares if a boyish figure woman has hair to her hips? Men prefer curves that black women are naturally blessed with not from a surgeon's knife or chemical additives in her body. Truth is black women are the most sexually harassed in workplace.
Why? Because if a blonde blue eyed white woman is a black man's fantasy Beyonce, Halle, Lupita and Serena are white men's wet dreams. But any black woman with an ounce of sense in her head knows that black women's body from slavery where we were raped, forced to breed white man's children to Jim Crow where gang rape was common tactic to control black women who rebel knows that our black bodies have always been desired whether we welcomed their attention or not. And guess what black women weren't wearing weaves to turn white and other men on.
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1Val • 20 days ago Black people remain the experts on our hair. lol. Ms. Kim and Ms. Lee sell Indian/Remi hair and black beauty products supplied by many black owned suppliers(Luster to black wig distributors Beverly Johnson, Naomi Sims, Sherri Shepard, etc..) in their mom and pop shops. But some of "us" are more concerned by what's on our heads instead of what is in our minds.
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1Val • 21 days ago Having hair does not define a woman's beauty. In fact, you must be STRIKING to be bald headed like Amber Rose, Lupita Nyongo. Grace Jones, Chrisette Michelle. etc... I'm hard pressed to think of any non black woman who is beautiful without hair on her head. I have worn my hair short for years and have no desire to return to long hair. Short hair accentuates your face where long hair disguises a woman's shortcomings. In other words, I lead with my face/beauty not hair to distract from my facial features. Confidence is the sexiest attribute any woman can possess. You should try it for yourself! ___________
1Val • a month ago To answer your questions, yes I have been I have been in similar situations where men assumed they were being respectful commenting on my body parts. Like most grown women, I have heard more than my fair share of "compliments" regarding my physique. For instances, breasts comments range from "those can't be real" to you "carrying a fortune on your chest" to " how long have you been a dancer with legs like that" "your teeth are so straight you could be in a lumineers commercial" " your skin is black velvet" " I could get lost in your beautiful eyes" " you are dark and lovely" " if you were a road sign it would say curves ahead" "that's how a black woman should wear her hair like yours" "you've got too much booty for that skirt" and too many silly comments on my backside too mention. How I address men and women who make inappropriate comments about my body depends on my mood, setting and individual. This past Sunday an elderly church lady stopped me as I walked by to inform me that her hips used to bounce like mine when she was my age. All I could do was laugh. First, I was unaware that my booty was jiggling so much so that with her declining vision even she could see it. I made a mental note to self to walk softer throughout service. If she had been my age I would have attributed her remarks to cattiness and addressed her comment. I expect men to be men and objectify women. So possessing that mindset I'm not offended by most men's comments/compliments unless they are truly out of line. Besides, its not about who a man thinks I am when he approaches/compliments me it is who he thinks that he is and he acts accordingly. _____________
1Val hollyw • a month ago You hit the nail on the head by stating they are mostly talk and will not put their money where their mouths are. They refuse to hold public education accountable and its FREE. So the likelihood of them being involved in something they must finance are slim and next to none. Perfectly explaining why this man is unable to raise a measly five million dollars to open his school.
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hollyw 1Val • a month ago No truer words. The dedication he requires is missing from most of his "fans", in addition to the finances, and five mil isn't even a lot. I helped raised half that much in one night of fundraising last summer with my org. to fund college scholarships for NYC male youth. They will have forgotten totally about this man in three day's time.
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1Val • 13 days ago But those white girls have what most black girls and black women Rihanna do not have from society which is RESPECT. Unfortunately, racist and sexist culture has ascribed black women as the face of promiscuity, lasciviousness and Jezebel stereotypes. Thanks to slavery's justification of owners lust and raping black women so we became their temptresses. Its why white culture is so comfortable with stereoypical images of black women being welfare queens and single mothers because they formed and media perpetuates this lie that black women are immoral h___ who love to indiscriminately screw men/women.
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1Val • a month ago Unfortunately, many black males are great at symbolic gestures. I recall Million Man March because black males vowed to take back their lost communities, received awesome press, spark plentiful debates yet yield very little results. Black men who rear their sons step up every day. They don't need a cause, a school or a movement for them to be who and what they are black men. What I find particularly disgusting about black males advocating for implementation of Dr. Umar's school is their hypocrisy. Many of those black males advocating for Dr. Umar have their mothers abandoned to rear their sons, grandsons, uncles, nephews and male cousin that they do absolutely nothing for or with. For you see it is not the public school system's systemic racism that is the only problem for black boys. It is black males refusal to be men in black families advocating, protecting and providing for those black boys in that school system. But we can not be honest by addressing that elephant in the room by blaming white people and feminist black women for black males failures to be men in their familis. Yet have audacity to proclaim themselves leaders of the black community.
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1Val • 2 months ago He's clearly has given advice but that doesn't make him worthy of dispensing advice. Again, his credibility has everything to do with words coming out of his mouth. For any adult male to engage in a sexually inappropriate relationship with a 17 years old child, commit adultery being a pastor then have audacity to berate women by resorting to gutter language of misnomers for women being side chicks and hoes as if he is ordained by God is utterly ridiculous. As for your claim on mudslinging it is the Word not I states," For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?" Timothy 3:5
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1Val • 2 months ago 50 Cent is textbook misogynist who hates women because of his abandonment issues with his mother. He is not marrying a woman because he hates women because he is mad at his mother.50 Cent being rich doesn't have anything to do with is contempt for women.lol
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1Val • 5 months ago My husband and I reared our son to love himself. For us loving himself means that he loves black women who look like him. We have stressed to our son that we do not nor have we ever wanted a non-black daughter in law. We did not invest our energy, emotion and resources into rearing a black boy into a black man to benefit non-black women. To be frank only black women are good enough to marry our black son and birth our black grandchildren.
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1Val • 5 months ago Ruby Dee, Cicely Tyson, Maya Angelou, Nancy Wilson, Toni Morrison, Nichelle Nichols and Diahann Carroll would make great living legends cover. Just a thought Essence.... ____________
1Val • 5 months ago Something is amiss with younger generations obesity rates. Perhaps its lack of access to parks and open space limiting children's ability to play and exercise. New subdivisions with houses built on top of each other, apartment living and chemicals in foods are producing fat kids. Its a damn shame when most older women's shapes put younger women's bodies to shame.
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100% Tired KIR12 • 11 hours ago Black poverty has dropped by half since 1960. The birth rate among unmarried Black women has been dropping since 1992,women are acting more responsibly, not less. Black men are 100% in control in preventing their "unwanted" kids. The law states that you have 50% of the responsibility in caring for your the offspring that you create. Black Feminism is nothing more than a term for the weak and controlling black male to blame yet something else for his failures. What happened to the Black males core values that are based on the Bible and Christianity? Condoms are at least 98% effective when used correctly. One minute you claim that there are relationships built on trust and emotions which is why people don't use condoms, but the moment the woman becomes pregnant, you change the story to "she didn't take responsibility for her body"???????????????? Just STFU dude. Black men are the last ones who should be preaching anything to black women.
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100% Tired KIR12 • 11 hours ago I don't live in any fantasy..I responded to your statement about poverty because you seem to be implying that illegitimacy is the sole driver when in fact poverty has been on the decline throughout the years, even with illegitimacy on the rise.
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